It’s not OK- Why we do what we do -a message from SHE Rescue Home
Posted on October 17, 2013
This is the story of one on the girls in our care. We’ve omitted her name to protect her identity, but perhaps just for a moment you could step out of your skin and imagine your name in her place…
She is four feet tall, has a self-cut bob haircut and a big toothy smile. For the longest time she has known the most beautiful Cambodian proverb- that she is like a white cloth. She is pure and clean with no blemishes (just as a young girl should be). This knowledge gave her a hope for the future that far outweighed her circumstances. She has never met her dad, her mum was sent to prison for drug trafficking and until she entered the care of SHE Rescue home, she was living with her grandmother in a home most would nt even consider a home. With no other options available she begged and sold bracelets on the street to contribute towards her family income.
Note: Cambodian proverbs do state that women are pure like white cloth however this is not the whole proverb. In it’s entirety the proverb is as follows… Men are like gold and women are like white cloth. If god is tarnished it can be polished up like new, though if white cloth is stained, it is stained forever…
She had befriended a group of 13-15 year old boys for protection as she begged into the early hours of the morning, though instead of protecting her, the raped her. Betrayed and distraught she went to the one place she knew to escape- her grandmother.
She disclosed this terribly painful and confusing experience to her grandmother only to find out that her grandmother’s concern did not lie in her grief but that she was no longer white cloth anymore-she was tarnished. As time passed she began to believe it herself.
Because of this stigma and dramatic drop in perceived worth, her grandmother started taking her to motel rooms where elderly western men were waiting- not to rescue her, not to comfort her, but to further break her body and her spirit in unspeakable ways.
Thankfully this is not the end f her story (even though for so many women and girls who never get rescued, it is). She was rescued and taken to the safe-haven that is the SHE Rescue Home. Though it took some time she has realized that she will never be taken to another motel room again. The new people she is with don’t beat her, don’t mistreat her, certainly don’t rape her and in fact treat her as is there isn’t a stain marred across her life at all. She goes to school rather than sell things on the street, She gets to talk with professional counselors about her life, She has a social worker to help her and her family move towards a better future, and she gets a warm dry bed and a loving house mother every single night until that better future she had always hoped for can become a reality. It’s not ok that she had to experience what she did and that’s why we do what we do. -SHE Rescue Home
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